It’s Not About The Clothes

I read and shared an article on facebook this morning written by a couple that we met at the Stitch Fix Party. It included something I haven’t heard yet before: a male perspective on Stitch Fix and it inspired me to write this post. He concluded with this, “…sometimes there’s a great deal more in a box than just a dress and charge on your credit card.” Yes. Yes. and Yes. I saw another quote somewhere that said, “Clothes aren’t going to change the world. The women who wear them will.” And that is exactly the point of this for me, personally. Since I’ve been posting a lot about Stitch Fix and clothes recently, I thought I’d take a moment to explain more about why I do it.

I’ve never been into fashion. Growing up, all I cared about was having the same name brand clothes all the cool kids had. To “keep up with the Joneses”. Then sometime after high school and during college, I just wore t-shirts, jeans and hoodies. And sneakers or flip flops. I didn’t really care much about what I wore. It wasn’t until last summer, after I had my 2nd kid, that I looked in my wardrobe and realized I needed a change.

1. Nothing fit.

2. Most of it was falling apart (holes in the armpits, buttons missing, etc.)

3. It was all from the juniors department and no longer reflected ME. A wife, a mom, an adult, a woman (no longer a junior!)

4. The idea of trying to figure out what my new “adult” wardrobe should look like, AND find the time to pick out, try on and purchase that new wardrobe (with 2 small kids), was extremely daunting.

Stitch Fix has solved all 4 of those problems for me! Which is why I love it so much and recommend it so often. It might not be for everyone, but it’s been great for me at this stage of my life.

For some women, maybe it is just about the clothes. The latest trends, the name brands, the price tag, etc. For me, it’s about what the clothes do for me. How they make me feel. The confidence they bring out in me. It’s not about being materialistic. It’s about being a sleep-deprived, exhausted mom who still wants to feel like woman sometimes. And there is NOTHING wrong with that. Clothes, make-up, jewelry, shoes, etc. can help us feel more like a woman and a little more “put together”. It’s not about hiding our true, raw, beautiful selves. It’s about enhancing and bringing out what’s already there. Sure, maybe some women take it too far and it becomes an obsession or the ONLY way they feel beautiful. But don’t assume it’s like that for every woman. I’d bet it has a lot more to do with confidence and just feeling good about themselves.

A typical “mom uniform” is yoga pants, a t-shirt “accessorized” with spit-up or goldfish cracker crumbs, and hair pulled back in a messy bun. When I’m home all day with my kids, that uniform is pretty practical and easy and I’m cool with that. But I’m not just a mom. I’m also a wife and a woman. I want my husband to know that I still care about being attractive to him like I did when we were dating. So I “clean up” nice for him on date nights. And I want the rest of the world to know, when I do make it out of the house, that I’m a confident woman and I haven’t just “let myself go” now that I’m a mom.

This whole idea was addressed at our last MOPS meeting. We had a really fun “fashion show” with volunteer moms strutting their stuff with cute outfits on, make-up tips and tricks and hair styling ideas. A few years ago I would’ve thought that was totally unnecessary and a little vain. Like, “shouldn’t we be talking about more important topics??” But now that I’m a mom my views have changed a bit. Of course there other things more important than clothes, make up and hair. But that’s not at all the point. Feeling brave and confident as a woman and a mom….that was the point. I get it now. And while it’s not the MOST important thing, it is still an important thing.

So, thank you again Stitch Fix, for helping me find my style and sending me clothes that I feel confident in. And aside from that, it is really fun getting a box of clothes in the mail every month. Nothing wrong with the fun factor either 🙂


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